Benjamin Deu, MA, LMHC

Licensed Counselor and Clinical Supervisor

 

Christian Counseling for Adult Individuals and Couples

You were created in the image of God for the purpose of bringing Him glory. Perhaps you are currently in a season in which you do not feel that you are bringing glory to God. Maybe you are even questioning whether you were made in His image. Many people reach a point in their lives when they feel stuck. They want to move forward, but they feel powerless and don’t know where to turn. Using biblical principles, warmth, and patience, I will work with you to seek lasting, positive change that will help you reflect God’s image and bring Him glory.
 

 
Please don’t hesitate to give me a call and come in for a risk free session. I do look forward to meeting you and would be honored to be part of your healing journey.

 

(425)-736-1676 
benjamin@seattlechristiancounseling.com

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How I work with Individuals:

I’m here to help you discover why certain emotional and relational struggles keep recurring in your life, and to walk with you toward resolution. Sometimes we aren’t sure why certain things happen in our lives. Learning how to heal emotional wounds, improve communication, and understand continual challenges will lead you to new and better experiences and healthier relationships. I challenge my clients to work hard in sessions, but give them space to work at their own pace. I remain attentive to my clients’ individual needs – some are looking for clear direction, while others need help reflecting on and sorting through past experiences. I cater my approach to each individual’s unique situation and goals, in order to best serve my clients in their point of need.

My areas of expertise include:

Broken relationships, loneliness, anxiety, depression, anger issues, sexual brokenness, and many types of loss.

Stepping into individual counseling for the first time can be intimidating or frightening. I respect your courage and would be honored to be a part of your growing and healing process. I specialize in helping adults understand themselves at a deeper level and make sense of what is happening in their relationships. Because my approach is relational, our interactions during sessions will be an integral part of this process. My counseling process has helped many of my clients move beyond painful and disappointing experiences. Many work through difficult and confusing feelings about themselves and others – sometimes in areas where they may have felt “stuck” for a long time.

Individual Counseling is about:

  • Making sense of who you are and why you do the things you do.
  • Sorting out feelings and learning how to manage them
  • Learning how to communicate more effectively and freely Letting go of heavy burdens within a safe environment.
  • Identifying your strengths and committing to employ them more passionately
  • Discovering God’s purpose for your life and moving forward with renewed passion.
  • Entering into a supportive process that invites God to mature you.

How I work with Couples:

Couples therapy offers an opportunity to stop and reflect on your life story. This better prepares you for choosing how you want to live with your significant other. Part of my role is to help you see how you interact in relationships so you can be more intentional as you approach relationships in the future. When counseling couples I borrow heavily from the works of Dr. Dan Allender, Dr. David Schnarch (research-oriented sex therapy), Dr. Susan Johnson (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and Dr. John Gottman (Love Lab Research). In addition to exploring the issues that bring you to counseling, we will look at relationships with other significant people in your life. Our work will focus on the ways that you thrive in relationships, as well as areas where you are hindered from reciprocity and enjoyment. I will collaborate with you to call out the truest and strongest areas of your heart and character in the hope of bringing about the most growth.

Marriage and Couples counseling can provide help for problems including:

Fighting, Infidelity, Lying, Issues of Aggression, Boredom, Loss of Desire, Sex Therapy, Past Sexual Abuse, Parenting, Finances, and Intimacy Issues

Relationships are tough. Ask any couple that has been together for longer than 48 hours, and they’ll tell you that all relationships require hard work. We all hit speed bumps and potholes along the road as we navigate the winding terrain of male-female interaction. I take my role as a counselor seriously and want to be actively engaged in helping you create the relationship you desire. Together we’ll devise an action plan so you can be prepared and know what to do when the next rocky patch appears on the horizon.

Couples Counseling is about:

  • Receiving clear and objective feedback about your relationship from a trained professional
  • Clarifying why you have breakdowns in your relationship and how to mend them.
  • Learning how to increase intimacy.
  • Developing more effective communication skills.
  • Having a safe place to talk about issues.
  • Navigating different levels of sexual desire in a monogamous relationship.
  • Increasing your capacity for intimacy and passion.
  • Working through relational failures such as betrayal and infidelity
  • Learning tools to negotiate and compromise.
  • Discovering your spiritual calling and purpose as a couple.

My clients and colleagues describe me as:

  • supportive and caring
  • challenging
  • clear in my feedback
  • attentive and easy going
  • humorous
  • Biblically literate but not “preachy”
  • a lifetime learner

I warmly invite you into a counseling relationship. I offer a risk-free initial session as well as a flexible range of scheduling options, including day and evening appointments. To learn more about areas of specialty and how my services might specifically benefit you, contact me @ (425) 736-1676 or benjamin@seattlechristiancounseling.com. If you are ready to setup an initial appointment contact my assistant Carolyn @ (206) 232-8212 or marketing@seattlechristiancounseling.com
 

Testimonials:

Your life will be changed!  by iluvseattle79 at Citysearch

I have been receiving counseling from Ben Deu and I cannot tell you how much it has changed my life. He has helped me to work through trauma and abuse that I have experienced that was holding me back from being the person that I was meant to be. Ben is very gentle in his approach, but also challenges you to face things that you need to face, but all at your pace. I have been so impressed with his professionalism and his approach to counseling. Meeting with Ben has truly changed my life and since then I have done things with my life that I never thought were possible for me before. He truly cares about his clients and the results show that. If you are considering seeing a counselor don’t hesitate to call Ben, you won’t be sorry.
– Anonymous Client

 

Married Couple – More in love today

On June 25, 2011 my wife and I celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary and we are more in love today than any other time in our lives together.  We owe Benjamin a lot of the credit for being able to say that.  We went through a very tough period over the last 5 years that nearly ended in divorce.  Benjamin helped us get to the core of our problems both in our marriage as well as in our individual lives.  Today we are very quick to recommend Benjamin not only to our friends in need of help but also to those who want to be proactive in making their relationships the best they can be.

-Anonymous Couple

 

Founder of Everett Mental Health

I have had the privilege of being in a consult group with Benjamin Deu for the past 5 years. In these years he has consistently shown his deep commitment to his clients through being an avid reader on topics related to them and being open to ask any question necessary to uncover what his clients most need. He believes the best about his clients and views their struggles from an optimistic and often unique perspective which allows them to overcome very difficult obstacles. Benjamin is one of the finest therapist in the Seattle area.

– Erika Baxter, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, M.Div., MAC

 

Pastoral Reference

I readily refer men, women, and couples to Benjamin Deu because I’m confident he does excellent, transformational work, with high integrity.

-Wayne Phillips, Pastor at Northshore Baptist Church

 

healing is possible by allin at Citysearch

This was the second time in my life I sought counseling and found Benjamin Deu through a friend. The magnitude of change and impact on my life was astounding – and far beyond my prior counseling experience. There is something very special about the kind of counseling done here – because it is so highly effective. I have convinced 3 other friends from my church to seek help here and they are also amazed. Benjamin Deu was clearly dedicated to walking with me toward healing with many tools and insights. I felt safe, understood, and cared for as I poured out the childhood loss, trauma and confusion that was continuing the plague my adult life. I saw dramatic change and healing take place – it still stuns me and the people who know me.  As far as spritually, Benjamin will help you grapple with the inevitable questions, “where was God?” “how could God…” You will be challenged to go beyond pat answers and deeper into your thoughts and feelings about who God is. If you are looking at this page, that means you are looking for healing. I can’t encourage you enough in that journey. I feel confident in the counseling I received and recommend it you wholeheartedly.

– Anonymous Female Client

 

Founder of Blue Harbor Counseling

Benjamin has the kind of presence that helps to soothe anxiety and bring order to chaos. He puts his experience to excellent use while continuing to be open to what each client needs individually.

– Matthew Tiemeyer, Licensed Therapist, IAEDP Newsletter Chair

 

Male Client Improving Relationships and Sexual Struggles

I am a 28 year old single male that struggles with pornography, relating to my mother, and intimacy.  These issues were affecting my relationship with my girlfriend, friendships, and career. My counselor Benjamin Deu has been a tremendous help to me as I sort out these issues and find my identity.  Our sessions are helping me come to a more mature state of being.  I would recommend counseling with him for any person regardless of how severe or trivial they consider their issues.  He has a been a blessing to my life as our sessions have improved my relationship with God, friends, family, my bosses, and my girlfriend.

-Anonymous Male Client

 

Brief counseling – hope focused

Your counsel made a big difference in my life, in the few times we met. It has greatly helped me to be able to move forward- to a place of hope.

-Anonymous Female Client

 

Benjamin changed my view of counseling

My initial view on counseling, like many others, was a negative one. I didn’t want to think my problems were enough to need professional help. But after some encouragement I started researching online and reading multiple reviews on different counselors, I came across Benjamin Deu. So many people had wonderful things to say about him and because a Christian counselor was top on my priority list, I decided to give it a shot with Benjamin.  After the first session, my view on counseling was completely changed, everyone needs counseling in one way or another. Benjamin makes you feel comfortable and understood, yet at the same time challenging you to face issues in your life in a healthy manner. I’ve been seeing him for over 6 months now and can see a big difference in my life and in how I see myself. Now, counseling is an essential part of my life.

-Anonymous Client

 

Male client works through anger and strengthens his marriage

Just the fact that I showed effort in coming to counseling has made a huge difference in my wife getting that I am committed to her and she now reacts differently to me as well.  Because my wife has seen the difference in me she has been open to changing as well.  I am able to manage my anger better.  Benjamin has given me the tools to recognize traits within myself that I am able to control without reacting.  What I noticed about Benjamin is that he is able to carefully listen to what I was saying and repeat back to me in a way that assured me of being understood and then he was able to open my eyes to things that I said and to be able to look beyond that and to what I am really saying and coming from so that I could see things more clearly.  I felt valued and that Benjamin was very focused on what I was saying. I have had some brief experiences with therapy in the past and I felt like they moved too slowly with me before.  I felt like Benjamin was able to quickly hone in on what my need was and address that and give me tools without using things like “how do you feel about that” over and over.  I never got practical feedback from other counselors.  Being somebody who repairs thing for a living I want to find a problem and focus on the problem and find out the issues that are there in the problem and repair the problem and make sure the issues don’t come back again.  That is what working with Benjamin was like.  He also helped me see why my wife might be reacting to me as well and how I should react to them and why it matters.  Another thing is that I felt at ease talking to Benjamin.   His non verbal clues and his way of being non judgmental really helped in this to name a few things.  I have talked with other biblical counselors before and they would be quoting scripture to me without really addressing practically what I was wanting to work through.  Benjamin was fully capable of talking about scripture, but wasn’t heavy handed in his approach to using scripture.

– Anonymous Male Client

 

Pre-marital Counseling – by Anonymous at Citysearch

Prior to marriage my husband and I were experiencing problems communicating with each other. We decided to seek premarital counseling with a Christian foundation, but were unsure where to start. We discovered Benjamin Deu by chance after searching online. Actually, the truth is my husband saw Benjamin’s picture on his website and thought he looked like a fair and honest person. After the first session with Benjamin we realized he had the spiritual and professional knowledge accompanied with the worldly knowledge needed to help us grow individually and as partners.

No regrets

I have received counseling from Benjamin Deu for a little over a year. I came to him at a time when I had personal issues that needed to be addressed and resolved. I felt that these issues and circumstances, most from my past, were holding me back from being my true self. Addressing these issues with Benjamin have enabled me to become more confident in myself in addition to being honest with myself about issues that do come up. By talking with Benjamin, I was able to let go of my worries and concerns from the past and use them as a resource to build a better future as well as cherish life’s moments in the present. Benjamin was extremely helpful and trustworthy. In addition he did not hold back from being honest with me. This sped up my progress because it brought up issues that I needed to comfort and cope with sooner rather than later. I encourage anyone who is ready to change his or her life to see Benjamin. I do not regret a single session or a single dollar that I have spent. There is no price on your mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual health.

– Anonymous Male Client (google reviews).

Taking the leap to see Benjamin has paid off immensely for us as a couple and also as individuals. We were very hesitant at first to admit that we needed to see a counselor but after continuing to stay stuck and not feel like we had the right tools to pull us back on track we decided to schedule an initial appointment. The hardest part of the process was getting through the door for that first appointment as it felt like we were giving up on ourselves and our ability to work through the issue on our own. Even though that was a tough decision it was one that we are very glad to have made. Thanks to Benjamin and our own efforts we now feel equipped to continue working towards the marriage that God designed us to be in together.

– Anonymous Couple

Memberships and Affiliations:

 

The American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
Life Innovations – Prepare/Enrich
The Association Of Christian Character Development (ACCD)
Youth With A Mission (YWAM)
Financial Peace University (Dave Ramsey)
Lifespan Integration (Peggy Pace)